Safe Communities Coalition of Hunterdon and Somerset, NJ

Being INVOLVED when your kids are having a large party at your home will help make it a positive experience for everyone. Here are a few planning points to consider...

INVITE

Use a written invitation - it's a good way to manage expectations and let other parents know what's going on (even if it eventually gets circulated by e-mail.) Spell out:

• Your home address, with family name, phone number and directions.
• Starting and Ending times of the party.
• State the "House Rules" ("No alcoholic beverages, Drugs of any type, Smoking in the house", etc.)

BE NEIGHBORLY

Advise your immediate neighbors of what's going on. Give them a copy of the invitation and drop off a copy with your local police as well. They'll appreciate being kept in the loop.

SEEK VOLUNTEERS

Don't hesitate to ask for chaperone help. After all, they're not all your kids.

OBSERVE

Tour your home and property during the party. Believe it or not, your presence is welcome relief to most kids.

LEAVE LIGHTS LIT

Light up the place..."Tis better to see you, my child!"

BE VISIBLE

Don't hover, but being seen, more often than not, prevents problems.

ENJOY

That's what the party is supposed to be about!

BE DECISIVE

• Be self-assured - take necessary action to manage behavior. Don't hesitate to ask or call for help. Do the right the thing!

Of course there are other things you can do to ensure that the kids have a good time. Being involved, while not "in their face", will add to the relaxing enjoyment of all.